“That’s when you know you found somebody really special—you can just shut the fuck poop up for a minute and comfortably share silence.”
You can tell a lot about people by how loud their silence is.
Weddings are strange that way. They can be a feast: laughter, drinks, dancing, energy everywhere. Sometimes the noise hides things. Sometimes it reveals them.
In ten years of filming weddings, I’ve seen a lot of couples. I only know of two who eventually got divorced. And not to be crass, but it wasn’t a surprise. Their silence was loud. Not awkward, which can be sweet. Just uneasy. Unsettled.
(Also—two out of maybe two hundred? A 99% success rate. Maybe there’s something to having me at your wedding…)
There’s a difference between doing things together and being together.
When two people can exist side by side comfortably, naturally, without performing, it’s palpable. Being near that kind of wholeness is one of the quiet joys of a wedding day. The laughter, the drinking, the dancing….those moments glow because of what’s underneath them.
Comfort in shared silence.